Just Noticing

"When I was young ..."
I was desperate for connection and intimacy and would grasp desperately at anything that seemed to offer that. To the point of constant calls and emailing, nonstop voicemail leaving, verging on the stalking.

Hey, I was young.

"Now that I'm older..."
I see the mistakes of my youth and I will walk away from a relationship when it no longer serves my higher purpose. This may be a difficult - even painful - decision, but I know that, in the end, that which makes me healthier will ultimately make me happier. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Right?

So, I'm wondering, how does one express this lesson to a CBL who, maybe (and I'm just speculating here) doesn't really understand that forcing people to spend time together and bond and play LaserTag together (I kid you not) does not necessarily mean that the love will increase. Especially if they've just spent two full weeks together in Florida and London. It's just that, if you try to force it, the love usually tends to do just the opposite.

I'm just sayin'.

As a PS - It's a little ironic that my relationship with GoodBuddy is teaching me this very lesson even as I have assaulted him that our relationship is no longer about the lessons he can teach me. GB, I admit it, if you're reading this, you still know one or two things I can learn. And, well, there's still a few clean pair of socks here if you want them.